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Should you ever go back?
18-05-2005, 05:03 PM
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Should you ever go back?

Ok girls in flat are having debate - Can/ or should you ever go back into a relationship with someone after you have split up?
Is it going back or can you move forward? or is there to much baggage invovled?
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18-05-2005, 05:07 PM (This post was last modified: 18-05-2005 05:10 PM by Dolores.)
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Should you ever go back?
...it all depends on how good he was in bed, Becks!

Also to be less flippant it all depends on why you split up. if he has genuinely changed, ie. he's not seeing that woman anymore, or he's join AA or he's stopped surfing the net for porn or whatever it was that split you up and you still love and miss him .... then I'd say give them another chance, but make sure you play it by your rules ... very very hard to do, but on the other hand only a fool throws away love for the sake of pride or cos their mates say so.

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18-05-2005, 05:08 PM
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Should you ever go back?
I think a lot depends on the reasons for the split in the first place and the length of time you were apart.

I personally would not go back, but then having been married for forever, it has been a long time since I was in this situation.

If the reason for the split was one parties infidelity, then I would say NO.
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18-05-2005, 05:08 PM
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Dolores Wrote:...it all depends on how good he was in bed, Becks!
and this is quite a valid point too :bag:
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18-05-2005, 05:12 PM
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Buzz Wrote:IIf the reason for the split was one parties infidelity, then I would say NO.

I would disagree Buzz, human nature is to wander sometimes and some unlucky buggers get caught! But I wouldn't throw away a relationship with someone I loved cos he'd slept with someone else. ....we all stray sometimes, whether in our minds or with our bodies. Love doesn't happen often, you shouldn't be so quick to give it up for the sake of the other partner having a quick jump.

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18-05-2005, 05:15 PM
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Dolores Wrote:I would disagree Buzz, human nature is to wander sometimes and some unlucky buggers get caught! But I wouldn't throw away a relationship with someone I loved cos he'd slept with someone else. ....we all stray sometimes, whether in our minds or with our bodies. Love doesn't happen often, you shouldn't be so quick to give it up for the sake of the other partner having a quick jump.

We shall agree to disagree. For me it is not the quick jump that would end it, but the respect/trust issues that I feel go hand in hand with it.
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18-05-2005, 05:28 PM
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Becks Wrote:Ok girls in flat are having debate - Can/ or should you ever go back into a relationship with someone after you have split up?
Is it going back or can you move forward? or is there to much baggage invovled?

i would say it depends too Becks....but personally I would find it difficult esp the longer the length of time you were apart was....you'd have so many trust issues,what went on when we were apart, you scored with whats his face i know from football etc...

and also if your friend was the dumper .... i dunno like if you go back to the old - do you ever learn and grow...i mean we all need different expereinces to grow ourselves dont we???...BUT if you break up with someone and ye both realise ye were only meant for each other than i suppose why not.....but truly i think if you break up its v hard to go back

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18-05-2005, 05:32 PM
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I have to agree with Buzz here - its not the human nature bit thats the issue but that it broke a trust.
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18-05-2005, 06:12 PM
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I know I shouldn't be in here - this is a very girly thread.
But I'll still say my bit!

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes a break is good for a relationship.
My sister and her boyfriend were together for 5 years. they then split up for a year and got back together. They are now practically engaged and have just bought a house together.

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18-05-2005, 06:24 PM
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PJ Wrote:I know I shouldn't be in here - this is a very girly thread.
But I'll still say my bit!

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes a break is good for a relationship.
My sister and her boyfriend were together for 5 years. they then split up for a year and got back together. They are now practically engaged and have just bought a house together.

I don't think it is a girly thread as could effect everyone and your point is extremely valid.
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