In the paper today it's reported that, following the change in the law regarding people being able to trace a donor 'parent', there has been a shortage of egg and sperm donors coming forward and so they are thinking of upping the fee (currently £15 plus expenses) to £1000 for eggs and £50 for sperm.

Would you sell your eggs/sperm?

I don't think I could. I mean, although it might help someone, I'd always be wondering if a child had come as the result of it and I'd want to see him or her!

I dont think so Max.

Although infertility can be a heart-breaking thing to go through and I thoroughly applaud the advances in science that have made it so available over the last 20 years, I dont think I'd be very comfortable with a person being created with large wads of my DNA and me knowing nothing about them.

I think that should they decide to trace you years down the line, things could become complicated.

Besides which, I feel I've already fulilled whatever procreative roll I was put on this planet for.

I wouldn't sell my eggs but I would give them to a needy relative or perhaps a very close friend who couldn't have children.

Does it hurt? ... cos if it does I might not.

I don't think there is anything wrong with giving up your sperm or eggs for altruistic reasons, but not for monetary gain.

In the paper today it's reported that, following the change in the law regarding people being able to trace a donor 'parent',

did it say what the implications of being traced by the child are? For instance, would there be any kind of legal obligation of responsibility towards the child?

I think the only person that I would donate eggs to would be sister, but I won't have to as she has two children, but if she had be unable to have children and I could have helped her I would have.

As for donating to strangers I don't think I could for the reasons mentioned above from SF & Groucho.

For instance, would there be any kind of legal obligation of responsibility towards the child?

No there isn't.

However, on turning 18, a person now has the right to know who their biological father was.

I think alot of people would struggle with the moral obligations of an 18 year old turning up on their doorstep.

I know of a woman who donated some of her eggs about 12 years ago, after she finished her family. I thought about it as well, but it would have meant several trips to London and with having 3 children under 5 it would been a little difficult so I didn't do it.

To be honest whilst considering it, it never occured to me that if a child was born as a result of my donation that they would want to find me!

did it say what the implications of being traced by the child are? For instance, would there be any kind of legal obligation of responsibility towards the child?

In the article it said that the vast majority of people conceived through sperm donation had positive feeling towards their bioligical father. Although 80 per cent said they were likely to ask for the donor's identity they didn't see him as an important person in their lives and none of them wanted money.

I couldn't do it either. I'm not sure I would even be able to do it for a member of my family because I just think I would feel a stronger bond with the child than if it was conceived normally and I'd be constantly poking my nose in.

I know this happened in another country, and not here, but a couple of years back I read of a Swedish lesbian couple who had a child from an anonymous sperm donor but later separated. The woman left supporting the child successfully managed to get a court to reveal the identity of the donor and nake him pay child maintenance.

Sounds daft but it happened - not saying it would happen here, but it goes to show that you cant just squirt into a jar, pocket your 50 quid (or kroner) and assume that's the last of it.

I think maxine has said very well some emotional boundary problems with donating to relatives. Whats not being said is HOW MANY genes we all have in common.
I think it should be anonymous.
I would donate my eggs.
I would happily be paid as i am contributing to a medical process and egg donation is likea month or more of part time work.

I wouldn't do it for £15!!
If it was anonymous and I needed the money I would do it for £1000 though.

I know when my friend donated her eggs she didn't get any payment at all, do woman get paid now for donating eggs does anyone know?

Before I had Gigi, I wouldnt have seen a problem with anonymous donation, but now, I'd feel like I was giving away a brother or sister of hers - I know this doesnt make sense, cos I dont plan on having any more children, but it just doesnt feel right any more.

I went quite some way down the road to donating after having my eldest but before having Tiddles, a gap of some 8 years.

I didn't think at the time I wanted anymore children, and I was more than happy to donate [at the time I wouldn't have been paid] my eggs. But the more I got down the line, I learned that it could affect my childbearing capabilities, as it was a fairly intrusive set of procedures, drugs and needles etc. In fact very similar treatment to women who are having fertility treatment.

Anyway - I realised that one day I may have wanted more children and I was not prepared to jeopardise my chances at this point, so decided against the idea.

However, I would be more than happy to donate at this stage of my life - but I doubt anyone would want them now - probably a bit old and manky by now!!

When Mr F heard this on the news this morning, esp with the incentive of having a grand in your hand he said Ok where do I go?? I said don't forget darling, you haven't got any - you had the snip 5 years ago!!!!

'Oh yeah' he says , 'I forgot'!!! :rolleyes:

If donation were completely 100% anonymous then I'd donate. Apart from the fact that I, erm, can't any more :D

But if there's even the slightest possibility of some kid or some mum turning up on me doorstep a few years on then I wouldn't donate for any money.

I used to think that I wouldn't have a problem with donating sperm...but after reading a recent story about a 56 year old woman having twins from both a donated egg and donated sperm, I just could never bring myself to do it.

I personally say that if you want to have a child but can't, ADOPT. Why bring a kid into the world thru unnatural measures when you can adopt an already living child that could really use your love and support.

I personally say that if you want to have a child but can't, ADOPT. Why bring a kid into the world thru unnatural measures when you can adopt an already living child that could really use your love and support.
Lucky I was able to fall pregnant and have 3 children naturally without any help but I am sure that if I had have problems concieving that I would have done anything to have my own child. I think it would have been a last resort to adopt. For me at least the overwelming (sp) desire was to have my own child, to experience my child growing inside of me and giving them life.

Lucky I was able to fall pregnant and have 3 children naturally without any help but I am sure that if I had have problems concieving that I would have done anything to have my own child. I think it would have been a last resort to adopt. For me at least the overwelming (sp) desire was to have my own child, to experience my child growing inside of me and giving them life.

True. I understand that concept, and I'm sure it is very much a natural feeling to want one's own...to pass on one's own genes. But i really think these new methods of becoming pregnant go too far at times. I mean this 56 year old woman was post-menopausal, and had both the eggs and sperm donated to her...so it just causes me to wonder how much it really is her own child? Does simply giving actual birth to the child make it one's own? Or...does it make it her child more-so than if she were to simply adopt?

I think it is EASIER and (cheaper in USA) for a post menopausal woman to use donated sperm and egg to get pregnant than adopt ababy under a year old. It would be her name on the birth certificate and the only parent/s the child would know. Adoption is complex at times.

But i really think these new methods of becoming pregnant go too far at times. I mean this 56 year old woman was post-menopausal, and had both the eggs and sperm donated to her...so it just causes me to wonder how much it really is her own child? Does simply giving actual birth to the child make it one's own? Or...does it make it her child more-so than if she were to simply adopt?
I do agree with what you are saying Islandman that sometimes it does go to far as in the case of a 56 year old woman. If you are too old to have a baby naturally you should be too old to have one with donated eggs and/or sperm.

Hmm...I'll need to keep this in mind the next time Im skint...

Seriously though - I don't think I could do this. I just don't like the idea of a kid walking about with half of my genetic code in them, with neither of us knowing each other.

Does it hurt? ... cos if it does I might not.



I think it's a lot less painfull for the boys !

I think it's a lot less painfull for the boys !

ROFLMAO!

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........................but it goes to show that you cant just squirt into a jar, pocket your 50 quid (or kroner) and assume that's the last of it.
What they give you either £50 or a butter replacement ........OK don't answer that!!!! I have a perfectly good coat and the door's open!

Thing is....can you stock up and make a bulk delivery?.......

I am sure mannotincludeddot .??would be delighted to hear from you

I am sure mannotincludeddot .??would be delighted to hear from you
And there was me hoping that would be a site my net-nanny wouldn't allow!!!!:D