I dont know if im being silly, but im feeling a little miffed.

I sold my gas cooker to my colleagues (speph) daughter in law. Steph came to view it on her behalf, said it was perfect and that the money would be with me in the next few days.

Over a week later i finally got the cheque. Now, i sold the cooker for £150 - but the cheque is made out for £125. Also she has spelt my surname wrong, so the cheque might not go through.

I asked where the other £25 was .... and i was told that Steph had told her daughter in law that the cooker was £125 by accident, and that she herself would put in the remaining £25 as a moving in pressie.

But where is it ? She hasnt given it to me to bank. So i will now have to keep asking about this £25 (which i find embaressing) and i also doubt the cheque i do have will clear as the name is incorrect.

Am i right to feel a little miffed about all this ? I did them a favour by dropping the price of a lovely Stoves gas cooker for a quick sale - and i feel like they are trying to shaft me. £25 is a lot of money.

I'd be livid.

Just tell her straight that you need the £25 tomorrow. Do you still have the cooker?

I'd be livid.

Just tell her straight that you need the £25 tomorrow. Do you still have the cooker?
Thank god im not alone - i thought i was being ultra sensitive !!

Yes i do still have the cooker. They wont be taking it until i know the £125 has cleared. Its just this extra £25 thats riling me too. I mean, if the cheque doesnt clear then i will know relatively soon and will say they need to send me another cheque ...... but i want to know when ill get the £25. All Steph said was "dont worry, you'll get it", but she is a scatty cow, and i dont know if i believe her.

Repeat after me:
Calm, Calm, Calm

You dont want to blow a gasket over a missing letter and 25 quid from a work colleague.

It's not like you've flogged it on eBay and already had it collected, is it?:huh:

Thank god im not alone - i thought i was being ultra sensitive !!

Yes i do still have the cooker. They wont be taking it until i know the £125 has cleared. Its just this extra £25 thats riling me too. I mean, if the cheque doesnt clear then i will know relatively soon and will say they need to send me another cheque ...... but i want to know when ill get the £25. All Steph said was "dont worry, you'll get it", but she is a scatty cow, and i dont know if i believe her.

That so reminds me of "duvetgate" lol. (It was a long time ago so may not be remembered by all). I'd be livid too and I don't like the "£25 as a moving pressie" - it's not a pressie, it's the amount owed for goodness sake. Sounds like she's doing you a favour.

Makes you think it's best not to buy or sell from friends. At least with strangers you can say what you think without feeling guilty or that you'll jeapardise your friendship.

Stick to your guns Bonnie and get what you asked.

At least with strangers you can say what you think without feeling guilty or that you'll jeapardise your friendship.


Or never see them again.

You dont want to blow a gasket over a missing letter and 25 quid from a work colleague.

Of course a 'missing letter' and £25 is important. Thats £150 in total - which to me is a lot of money. Should i put a bow around it and give it to them as a pressie .... because its a work colleague ? No.

No, you should probably just mention it quietly tomorrow morning over tea and doughnuts or something.

Anyhow, if it's only a small spelling mistake your bank will cash the cheque.

No, you should probably just mention it quietly tomorrow morning over tea and doughnuts or something.

Make sure she pays for the doughnuts :laugh:

No, you should probably just mention it quietly tomorrow morning over tea and doughnuts or something.

Thats what i have done. When my colleague came in this afternoon i asked about the missing £25, and she said not to worry and that she would give it me .... but i have a feeling she wont. She isnt very reliable. But i didnt harp on at her, or make a song and dance about it - i only mentioned it the once.

I hope the bank will accept the cheque. I will bank it tomorrow.

I hope the bank will accept the cheque. I will bank it tomorrow.

On a Thursday??? :shocking:

Not a good day to bank cheques!

On a Thursday??? :shocking:

Not a good day to bank cheques!

Dont be daft :wink2:

Seriously, cashed on Thursday, processed on Friday when the staff all go to the pub at lunchtime and try and leave early.

More cheques get lost than processed on a Friday........everyone in banking knows that! :sly:

More cheques get lost than processed on a Friday........everyone in banking knows that! :sly:

Things must have changed then .... cos i used to work for HSBC and i never went to the pub on a friday afternoon :mellow:

I think i'll risk it though :p

If the cheque is made out to the wrong name anyway, Id return it, ask for a cheque for the full amount of 150 and tell your friend to give her 25 quid to the woman who's buying it.

Call me cynical, but it all seems a bit pre-planned.

I'd be fuming Bonnie. I wouldn't care how embarassing it was for me, I'd keep badgering her about the £25. And if the cheque doesn't go through, I'd keep badgering them for another.

It pees me off when people do stuff like this. If I owe someone money I always make sure I give it to them asap.

I'd be fuming Bonnie. I wouldn't care how embarassing it was for me, I'd keep badgering her about the £25. And if the cheque doesn't go through, I'd keep badgering them for another.

Yes PJ, I do believe you would! :shocking:

Bon...give the cheque back and say you would like one returned with the full amount and correct name on it and that the woman you work with can owe her daughter £25 and not you.:sly: Simple really!

Oh and do not part with the cooker until you have the full amount or you will be waiting forever and a day for the money!

(just noticed...SF the wise beat me to the above advice...I'll go get my coat)

I dont know if im being silly, but im feeling a little miffed.

I sold my gas cooker to my colleagues (speph) daughter in law. Steph came to view it on her behalf, said it was perfect and that the money would be with me in the next few days.

Over a week later i finally got the cheque. Now, i sold the cooker for £150 - but the cheque is made out for £125. Also she has spelt my surname wrong, so the cheque might not go through.

I asked where the other £25 was .... and i was told that Steph had told her daughter in law that the cooker was £125 by accident, and that she herself would put in the remaining £25 as a moving in pressie.

But where is it ? She hasnt given it to me to bank. So i will now have to keep asking about this £25 (which i find embaressing) and i also doubt the cheque i do have will clear as the name is incorrect.

Am i right to feel a little miffed about all this ? I did them a favour by dropping the price of a lovely Stoves gas cooker for a quick sale - and i feel like they are trying to shaft me. £25 is a lot of money.


That's awful , how can people be like that? I would not have let her take the cooker until she paid up front for it. ( IN CASH) :wink_kiss

Yes PJ, I do believe you would! :shocking:
Yes Groucho, I would. £25 would be a lot for me at the moment. Why what would you do? Sit back at let them do you out of money?

Yes Groucho, I would. £25 would be a lot for me at the moment. Why what would you do? Sit back at let them do you out of money?

Probably.

Afterall, it's only 25 quid.:wink_kiss

Probably.

Afterall, it's only 25 quid.:wink_kiss
£25 is a lot of money to some people but it`s not just the money now it`s the principal of it all.

£25 is a lot of money to some people but it`s not just the money now it`s the principal of it all.

Seriously? Wow! :nerd:

I think it's about being the bigger person actually.:boxing:

Seriously? Wow! :nerd:

I think it's about being the bigger person actually.:boxing:
How can it possibly make you the bigger person by letting someone rip you off?

By knowing you've helped someone out who needs the money more than you do.

By knowing you've helped someone out who needs the money more than you do.

But they dont.

The woman buying my cooker is just moving into a flash new house - which hasnt got a cooker. They are having a state of the art kitchen fitted, but they have to wait about 6 months before that can be done. In the meantime they need something to cook on. Hence why they are buying a 2nd hand cooker.

They have also just come back from their 3rd foreign holiday this year.

Me thinks i need the money more.

Seriously? Wow! :nerd:

I think it's about being the bigger person actually.:boxing:

Ah well Grouch, if only we were all as loaded as you were then the odd £25 lost here & there wouldn't mean anything. :cool:

Can I just say that you'd get a better result by sorting it out with the women instead of posting about it.

Can I just say that you'd get a better result by sorting it out with the women instead of posting about it.
Why cant i post about it ? I thought this forum was about discussing problems ?

Blimey - and people wonder why noone posts here anymore :wink2:

Are you scared of her Bonnie? :cry:

Not saying you can't post about it, just sounds as if you've put your energies into posting about it rather than sorting it out.

Are you scared of her Bonnie? :cry:
Who ??

My colleague i dont know too well as she has only just started here. And no, im not scared of her.

The one actually buying the cooker i have never met in my life.

Not saying you can't post about it, just sounds as if you've put your energies into posting about it rather than sorting it out.

F*cks Sake. No i havent. The cheque was given to me yesterday afternoon when my colleage came into work. I asked where the extra £25 was and she told me what she was planning to do. I said i would bank the cheque and see if it would go through - although i doubted it. I was concerned and narked so i posted.

I wont see her again until Monday morning, cos she works part time.

I give up. Forget this thread, i wont in future share any issues or concerns.

Why cant i post about it ? I thought this forum was about discussing problems ?

Blimey - and people wonder why noone posts here anymore :wink2:

Exactly my point. There was a time when you could come on here and share the mundane stuff that makes up daily life and feel better because you've got it off your chest. But when people jump on your back and make you feel like a plonker for even mentioning it ... well, it's just no fun any more.

But where is it ? She hasnt given it to me to bank. So i will now have to keep asking about this £25 (which i find embaressing) and i also doubt the cheque i do have will clear as the name is incorrect.

Am i right to feel a little miffed about all this ? I did them a favour by dropping the price of a lovely Stoves gas cooker for a quick sale - and i feel like they are trying to shaft me. £25 is a lot of money.

What I'm trying to say is you have problem that needs sorting, you could spend till Doomsday asking a bunch of nerds like us what to do, but that won't get you your money back.

Exactly my point. There was a time when you could come on here and share the mundane stuff that makes up daily life and feel better because you've got it off your chest. But when people jump on your back and make you feel like a plonker for even mentioning it ... well, it's just no fun any more.

Perfectly put, and i couldnt agree more.

Exactly my point. There was a time when you could come on here and share the mundane stuff that makes up daily life and feel better because you've got it off your chest. But when people jump on your back and make you feel like a plonker for even mentioning it ... well, it's just no fun any more.

Your approach is probably more along the lines of 'Aww poor Bonny, there there' etc, I'm coming at it from a different way, that is she has a problem so what's the best way to sort it.

Probably where I miss thepoint is not knowing if she needs help or merely sympathy.

Your approach is probably more along the lines of 'Aww poor Bonny, there there' etc, I'm coming at it from a different way, that is she has a problem so what's the best way to sort it.

Probably where I miss thepoint is not knowing if she needs help or merely sympathy.

You're just a self delusional nasty bit of work who likes to put people down and then pretend you are being helpful.

I guess you've never, ever, posted anything that just needed a bit of advice or even sympathy. Well lucky old you for being so perfect, but cut a bit of slack for us lesser mortals who need a bit of back up from time to time eh?

Your approach is probably more along the lines of 'Aww poor Bonny, there there' etc, I'm coming at it from a different way, that is she has a problem so what's the best way to sort it.

SF - you arent helping me to sort the problem. I dont need help to sort it - i was just getting my frustrations off my chest. But you said i was putting all my energies into posting about it, and not doing anything. Thats what i think is a shame, that people feel they cant post about their worries or problems as others will diss them.

My my, it's tetchy round here today, isn't? :whistling:

SF - you arent helping me to sort the problem. I dont need help to sort it - i was just getting my frustrations off my chest. But you said i was putting all my energies into posting about it, and not doing anything. Thats what i think is a shame, that people feel they cant post about their worries or problems as others will diss them.

Well I think it's sometimes easier to - what's the word - displacement I think, - easier to use the board as a displacement activity rather than doing something that needs doing.

Just to take anothyer example, your New Career thread, where we spent a lot of time discussing your new job on here, but you didn't actually put your application in.

You're just a self delusional nasty bit of work who likes to put people down and then pretend you are being helpful.

I take it this is another of those positive attempts to diffuse the situation you were telling us about earlier.

I take it this is another of those positive attempts to diffuse the situation you were telling us about earlier.

Since I named you in the "people who get up my @rse" thread then I think it would be obvious to a 5 year old that I have given up on trying to diffuse anything. It's just another attempt, by you, to make me look like an idiot and a liar.

Just to take anothyer example, your New Career thread, where we spent a lot of time discussing your new job on here, but you didn't actually put your application in.

So im attention seeking ?

Thats fine, like i said i wont be posting another thread on here again .... whats the point. I would rather PM the people who do care about other members or speak directly to friends. This forum used to be about the members and what they were doing in their general lives .... not just 'who wants to pick on others' threads.

At least i now know.

So im attention seeking ?
.

Didn't say that. I meant that you put your energies into talking about the new job on here then missed getting your application form in - made me think you'd have been better off actually applying for the job.

:sleepy: :sleepy: :sleepy:

Ignore that miserable ******, Bons. I love your threads. Well, most of them anyway. ;) No-one has to read them, do they?

The boys are being particularly "playful" at the moment. They probably just need a bloody good w @nk.

Ignore that miserable ******, Bons. I love your threads. Well, most of them anyway. :;) No-one has to read them, do they?

Thanks Pats - but i wont be starting another one.

To be honest i only started an odd thread here and there to pep this place up a bit and keep people posting as most had p*ssed off. I thought you might be interested in the dog, and if i had a problem. But obviously my threads are tiresome and attention seeking.

I wont be bothering anymore. I just hope SF can start an odd interesting thread ? I wait with baited breath .... and i hope noone else ever has a problem they wish to rectify with the help of old pals.

Bonnie Bonnie Bonnie :cool:

Dont take everything to heart so. Who gives a **** what SF thinks? Who gives a **** about your cooker, to be honest, but if you wanna post about it, go for it. If people want to reply, they will, and they have, so it was obviously interesting to those people.

Start whatever you want. What's the worst that can happen?

Dont take everything to heart so.

What else have i taken to heart :unsure:

Oh blimey I don't have a list.

Forget I spoke :ninja:

I dont need help to sort it - i was just getting my frustrations off my chest.

i hope noone else ever has a problem they wish to rectify with the help of old pals..

Can you really blame me for getting it wrong then?

No SF, i dont blame you ...... cos i am obviously in the wrong.

It's just another attempt, by you, to make me look like an idiot and a liar.

You seem to be living under the misapprehension that I have it in for you for some reason, whereas the truth is that to me you are just another SO member and you are of no special interest one way or another, except that it appears you have a bee in your bonnet about something which as far as I can make out goes back to your last 'meet'.

As far as I remember, you thought my Jap Snap was intended to make you look like a nerd. Is this where it all kicked off?

and regarding the above claim of yours, wasn't it Spiral who, whenever someone said something he didn't like, accused them of trying to make him look like a fool on national TV - the truth being he didn't need any outside help at all.

You seem to be living under the misapprehension that I have it in for you for some reason, whereas the truth is that to me you are just another SO member and you are of no special interest one way or another, except that it appears you have a bee in your bonnet about something which as far as I can make out goes back to your last 'meet'.

As far as I remember, you thought my Jap Snap was intended to make you look like a nerd. Is this where it all kicked off?

and regarding the above claim of yours, wasn't it Spiral who, whenever someone said something he didn't like, accused them of trying to make him look like a fool on national TV - the truth being he didn't need any outside help at all.

OMG - I've seen the light. You're absolutely right. I AM an idiot and a liar and I've born a grudge all this time over the innocent "nerd" comment you made and got it all wrong when you were just trying to be helpful and constructive.

I'm so sorry for being such a flawed character. Thankyou for pointing out the error of my ways. If it hadn't been for you I would have gone on suffering under the delusion that I was an easy-going, reasonably intelligent and truthful person. I will seek counselling right away. Marriage Guidance counselling too, and maybe another course of Bereavement Counselling would help. I hope to come become a better person. I'm sure I can count on your support.

But you see, I never made a 'nerd' commnt, that was you, and now you're attributing it to me!

A few weeks back you were complaining about me again, and as a result I said I'd steer clear of replying to any of your posts if that would make you happier.

I think I stuck to that, until you have come back with something about me that I felt needed a response. Having done that, you complain that I'm trying to make you look like a fool.

So, what is it you would like me to do from now on? Reply to your posts? Not reply? Put you on ignore? What?

But you see, I never made a 'nerd' commnt, that was you, and now you're attributing it to me!

A few weeks back you were complaining about me again, and as a result I said I'd steer clear of replying to any of your posts if that would make you happier.

I think I stuck to that, until you have come back with something about me that I felt needed a response. Having done that, you complain that I'm trying to make you look like a fool.

So, what is it you would like me to do from now on? Reply to your posts? Not reply? Put you on ignore? What?

Just go on being your usual lovable self SF while I see if I can change my terrible ways.

Oh and btw, no you didn't stick to it but sorry to mention it. It's my fault.

Probably.

Afterall, it's only 25 quid.:wink_kiss
Oh right. Didn't realise you were such a walkover in real life. It's all becoming clearer now... :wink_kiss

Oh right. Didn't realise you were such a walkover in real life. It's all becoming clearer now... :wink_kiss

PJ, Groucho has notes stacked in his loo to wipe his ar$e, instead of what brand is on the usual BOGOFF at the local Tescos - he really is that loaded! :ninja:

is Groucho smoking the ole wacky baccy??????? if he is i want to join him........i drink to all our healths......(ok i have too much beer.

And I thought I was gonna come in here to talk about cookers!:w00t:

Oh what a nice surprise for you Andrea :w00t:

............:w00t:

Bonz.............I've cracked it.

Use H's method....

Why don't you get every one to donate £5 then you wouldn't have a worry in the world.



Of course you could just say the jobs worth at the bank wouldn't accept it and that the £25 is needed to pay your subscription to SO!

Bonnie, I'm anxious to know. Did the cheque clear?

Yes it did thanks.

Did you get the £25?

Did you get the £25?
No, not yet.

Do not pass over the cooker until you have it Bon Bon! :wink2:

Are you sulking?

Bonnie, why don't you buy a copy of this wonderful book (http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0446691828.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg) and sit it on her desk?

Are you sulking?

No, because im not 12 years old :mellow:

Hey Bonnie

(sorry to bring it back on topic :) ) but that's a horrid situation. Perhaps you could just not mention her acutally taking the cooker and then she'll have to bring it up and you can then say "oh, well could you give me the other £25 before you collect it?". Or something equally casual.

Damn my spelling is bad!