Whether you've rejected or been rejected tell us a story about it!

Today I was the rejector! I'm still feeling a bit bad about it - although god knows why - it was really something and nothing.

At Christmas this bloke from work took a shine to me - despite me being so drunk and foul mouthed that I shocked even myself!!! (talk about low standards!). Anyway when we came back to work he kept emailing me asking me out to lunch, eventually I gave in and we went for a very nice chinese - which he paid for (in retrospect I should have offered to go half cos I felt like a bit of a free loader!).

so after a few more emails from him I thought I can't let this go on, but I didn't want to say get lost via email so today I suggested we went for lunch together (bless him he looked so chuffed!) and after he said a couple of times would I like to go out to the pictures one night and me completely evading the question I felt I had to tell him straight, so I very po-facedly said that I liked him but didn't really want to pursue anything outside of work . He looked a bit upset (OK ... the man was completely distraught and in pieces ... yes I AM all that!!!! lol!) but he said he was glad I'd been honest.

I have to say the migraine that had been threatening all morning was lifted almost instantly and I'm so glad I came out and told him straight. I just wish a few of the blokes I've known in the past at the beginning stages of a casual relationship could have been as honest and straightforward as me instead of keeping me hanging on!!!

So come on have you ever just not returned someone's calls after a couple of dates or are you brave enough to reject people face to face?!

The ones I have hated were when I was told that I was 'too nice' for the creep concerned and that is why they couldn't continue, that is really lame. Then there are the cowards who just don't say anything and dump you after being all over you like a rash! The modern way seems to be texting - a la Britney - I'd prefer a showdown with a bit of shouting and crying - at least it adds to the historic moment when you look back ( and think thank god I'm not with him anymore!)

Well done for confronting the situation Dol :good: Was he cute though ?

Having been married for an eternity it hasnt happened to me much, but once i had to be quite rude.

When i was 15 i dated this gorgeous guy called Steve. He was a goth, and different, and he was two years older than me. All the girls in school fancied him, and i was shocked when he asked me out.

We dated for about 5 months, and then he dumped me for a girl he met at a gig (he was a musician) and i later heard they got married.

I was distraught, but i got over it .... met Mr.B and got married.

About 4 years ago i went on Friends Reunited, and Steve emailed me. It was great to hear from him again, and we started talking on MSN. He then told me how things weren't working out with his wife and that he wanted us to get back together. He said he had never stopped loving me, and that he wanted me to dump Mr.B and go back to him :shocking: He wanted to meet with me in our home town (we both lived in Wickford), and take things from there.

I told him no, partly because i wanted to remember him fondly as my first love and nothing more. Also because, although he was having problems in his marriage, i wasnt .... and i didnt want him popping up and declaring undying love to ruin my own relationship. He kept badgering me though, and wouldn't take no for answer, and to be honest - it scared me.

So i cut all contact with him. I cancelled my MSN account, changed email accounts and havent had contact with him since. About 2 years ago i looked on Friends Reunited and he had put some bitchy comment (obviously aimed at me) on his record.

The ones I have hated were when I was told that I was 'too nice'

You do realise that that's a euphamism for.....

a) You didn't put out!

or

b) You don't put out in the desired ways!!

Ouch! I really cannot comment (but you may be right - it was a long time ago!!!!)

Dol - bad move, you should at least have got a quick shag off him before telling him to sod off.

Dol - bad move, you should at least have got a quick shag off him before telling him to sod off.

don't think it didn't cross my mind!!! but you know how clingly and needy blokes can be once you've shagged 'em ... I knew I'd never get rid of him after one night with me!!!! :kid:

Love me or leave me just don't expect me to give a fudge! :wink_kiss

oh and if I don't like you I wont talk to you so the need to out and out reject you will never arise! :sly:

I have never been dumped so I don't know what that feels like.

I did go out with one person for 6 months, my family hated him, but as I was young (18) I persevered. I finally saw what my whole family saw and dumped him. It took 6 months and several telephone calls with a Policeman to convince him it really was over. It was a truly traumatic time I can tell you.

did you see the movie "something's gotta give" and diane's moment of 'heartbreak'? oh, i have been there and wondered if it would ever end. the pain was so bad. however, years later, i wonder if i would be so lucky to ever feel as intensely and madly again. isnt life strange?

Ain't it just:thumbsup:

It's like the pain of really, really fancying someone. Can't see that happening again.